How to survive adulthood?
From the moment we were born up to that college graduation day, we are clueless as to what we want to be when we’ve come of age and yet, we couldn’t wait to grow up. Some are fortunate to belong to a family of doctors, lawyers, or engineers as their future is already set but for some, it’s like living in a world of uncertainties where knowing your life’s purpose seemed far-fetched.
My so-called life:
At 5, I wanted to be a doctor.
At 16, my goal was to get a University degree and live a normal college life.
At 18, I was in love and didn’t give much thought as to what I want my future to be like because I already considered the one I was with, the one whom I thought was the love of my life, to be my future.
At 26, that love was gone and I hit rock bottom. I was hurt and in pain. I was on the run.
At 29, I was lost and confused, empty and alone.
At 31, I finally found some clarity and decided to quit my job to travel.
At 32, I was traveling long-term and fell in love. I didn’t want to stop.
At 33, I hit rock bottom yet again. Broke, financially and emotionally, frustrated and CLUELESS.
At my age, I should have figured things out but I don’t and it’s okay. It took time before I can finally comprehend and accept why things had to happen. Frustrating and daunting as it may be, I have always trusted that Universe got my back. And with deep thoughts, restless days and dark nights, I was able to arrive at these realizations:
- You make a target-based decision, not an escape-based decision. You do things not because you’re running AWAY from something but because you’re running TO something.
- You work not for money but doing something you love. Yes, that’s such a cliche, but really, you wouldn’t want to waste your life trying to please everyone but yourself. And I’m not telling you to be selfish, all I’m saying is, do something you love that those around you will be inspired.
- There’s really no way that you could prepare for life. You’ll have more questions than answers, you’ll make mistakes and hit rock bottom, and you might just lose yourself just so you can find yourself again but in a much better state – the cycle of life. All I know and experienced, do things that would create stories, stories that you’d be proud to share to your children and grandchildren. Letting them see that at least once in your life, you tried for something. JUST GO FOR IT.
- Don’t rush. Simply put, you enjoy the journey and not the destination; take some detours along the way and find joy in being lost because that may just lead you to the right path. Embrace life’s simplicity and complexity.
- Steve Jobs said “you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.”
Things that you do are like puzzle pieces. At the right time, it will eventually fall into place to create a bigger picture.
Life, as we know it, has a lot of twist and turns and our only saving grace is that everything happens for a reason. So always keep an open mind and have faith in fate.
Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. ― Ralph Waldo Emerson