Young adults, especially those fresh out of college, have painted a picture perfect world where everything is possible and within reach. I say, there’s nothing wrong with that so let them because sooner or later, reality will catch up with them and on their own, they will realize that the picture they’ve created is merely an outcome of their ideals.
To be young and idealistic can be attributed to the parents and how they brought up their kids in this world.
Our parents, more often than not, will raise hell and back just to protect us from harm, thus, creating a good image of the world as we grow up. But as soon as we get a glimpse and feel of the real world, either from our first work, first heartbreak or even first travel outside the country, dreams and ideals begin to shatter.
With that glimpse of the real world, we experience betrayal and suffering, laughter and joy. We realize that not everything is handed to us on a silver platter, or that life won’t wait for us to catch up, or that life is unfair and we really can’t do anything about it.
Dealing with all these, acceptance is the key. Accepting all the good and the bad around you, realizing that you live in an imperfect world and you, yourself, are flawed. Failure to accept all these would mean being stuck in rut and refusing to grow. But with acceptance, you allow yourself to grow through the mistakes you’ll make, failures you’ll encounter, new people you’ll meet, and an open mind to accept different points of views and things that you have no control over.
Strike a balance between being a realist and an idealist. Continue to dream big and be better than what society dictates. Listen to your heart and believe in what you can do but also know when to retreat, to accept things as they fall apart, to move on when life events don’t go as planned, and to start again.
“You see, idealism detached from action is just a dream. But idealism allied with pragmatism, with rolling up your sleeves and making the world bend a bit, is very exciting. It’s very real. It’s very strong.” — Bono