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How It Feels to be Misunderstood

How It Feels to be Misunderstood Posted on February 2, 2015

I am Sonhadora, 34 years old, born and raised in the Philippines. At 32, I decided to quit my job, sell everything I have and travel halfway across the world. It lasted for 14 months and I found my way back home. What do I know about life? A little and a lot. I’ve certainly had my fair share of dreams coming true, frustrations and hitting rock bottom, broken hearts and a lot of unexpected detours. Follow my blog and join me in this once in a lifetime adventure and I will make it worth your while.

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Imagine a 2-year old kid trying to tell you something but couldn’t make up the words and you can just witness how frustrating it is for them. Now, imagine yourself in a boardroom or in an argument with your parents or peers or colleagues and chose to shut up, not because you have nothing to say but because you think that you don’t have a say in the matter at hand or out of fear of sounding like an idiot and creating conflict, or worse, thinking that your opinions don’t matter. Then, when the moment has passed, you’ll hear yourself complain about the frustrations and disappointments that life is throwing at you when in reality, all you have to do is speak up.

Choosing to shut up is like adding insult to that 2-year old kid, who knows what to say but can’t and here we are, armed with a powerful tool and freedom of expression and yet, we choose to stay in silence for reasons we initially thought are good but end up hurting ourselves.

For me, I believe that it’s more important to be nice than to be right but when you truly believe in something and someone questions it, stand up to it with conviction. Don’t let your beliefs and values be compromised just because someone said so or because you’re afraid, or weak, to contest. Give up your voice now and you’ll lose yourself in the process, following a life dependent on what the society and those around you dictate – forever misunderstood, just like that 2-year old kid.

You don’t get to complain about something or someone you’re putting up with, and what you allow, will definitely continue.

Life is, indeed, too short for words left unspoken, for letting others, or your own weakness, drown your voice, and for choosing to shut up when your words could have made a difference.

I am Sonhadora, 34 years old, born and raised in the Philippines. At 32, I decided to quit my job, sell everything I have and travel halfway across the world. It lasted for 14 months and I found my way back home. What do I know about life? A little and a lot. I’ve certainly had my fair share of dreams coming true, frustrations and hitting rock bottom, broken hearts and a lot of unexpected detours. Follow my blog and join me in this once in a lifetime adventure and I will make it worth your while.